Easy Conversation Starters For First Time Punters

Booking an escort for the first time can be exciting, but it can also come with a few nerves. You might have already thought about who you want to meet, where you’ll be going and what kind of experience you’re hoping for.

Then comes the part nobody really talks about:

What do you actually say when you meet?

For a lot of first-time punters, this is the bit that causes the most overthinking. What if there’s an awkward silence? What if you say something weird? What if your mind goes completely blank?

The good news is you really don’t need to overcomplicate it.

You don’t need cheesy chat-up lines, a list of clever questions or some perfectly rehearsed opening. A few easy conversation starters, a bit of genuine interest and a relaxed attitude will usually do the job.

If you’re feeling a little nervous about your first booking, here are some simple ways to break the ice and keep the conversation flowing.

Start With The Obvious

Sometimes the easiest conversation starter is the best one.

You can simply ask:

“How’s your day been?”

It might not sound groundbreaking, but that’s exactly why it works. It’s relaxed, easy to answer and gives you somewhere to go next.

If she mentions she’s been shopping, ask where she went. If she says she’s had a busy day, ask what she’s been up to. If she’s been relaxing, ask what she normally likes doing in her spare time.

You don’t need to jump from question to question either. Just listen to what she says and pick up on the little details.

That tends to make the conversation feel much more natural.

Talk About Where You Are

If you’re meeting at a bar, restaurant, hotel or somewhere else in London, use your surroundings.

Ask:

“Have you been here before?”

If she has, ask what she thinks of the place. If she hasn’t, you can both take it in together.

You could also ask:

“Do you have a favourite place in London for drinks?”

That can easily lead into a chat about nightlife, restaurants, favourite areas and hidden gems around the city.

If you’re still deciding where to go, our guide to London’s best hidden date spots has plenty of ideas.

Food Is Always An Easy One

Food is one of those topics that almost always works.

If you’re out for dinner, you’ve basically got a conversation starter sitting right in front of you.

Try:

“What kind of food do you usually go for?”

From there, you can talk about favourite restaurants, cuisines, comfort food, places you want to try or dishes you’d never order again.

You might both love sushi.

You might both be obsessed with steak.

You might completely disagree on pineapple on pizza.

Either way, it gives you something easy and fun to talk about without getting too personal.

Ask About Travel

Travel is another safe bet because there are loads of directions the conversation can go in.

Try something like:

“What’s the best place you’ve ever been?”

or:

“If you could fly anywhere tomorrow, where would you go?”

It’s a much better question than simply asking whether someone likes travelling.

You can talk about favourite cities, beach holidays, weekend breaks, dream destinations or holidays that went completely wrong.

Even if you haven’t travelled much yourself, you can still ask questions and show an interest.

Ask What She Likes About London

If you’re spending time with one of our London escorts, London itself gives you loads to talk about.

Ask:

“What’s your favourite thing about London?”

You might end up chatting about bars, restaurants, shopping, parks, nightlife, quiet spots or parts of the city you’ve never explored.

If you’re visiting London rather than living here, even better. You might end up getting a few recommendations that are way better than anything you’d find on a standard tourist list.

Music Is Another Easy Win

Music is one of those topics that can tell you a lot about someone without feeling too personal.

Ask:

“What kind of music are you into?”

That can lead into favourite artists, gigs, festivals, guilty pleasures or songs you’re both embarrassed to admit you know every word to.

And don’t worry if your tastes are completely different.

That can actually make the conversation more interesting.

If she mentions an artist you’ve never heard of, ask what song you should start with.

Simple.

Movies And TV Work Too

Pretty much everyone has watched something recently.

Ask:

“Seen anything good lately?”

It’s an easy way to get the conversation moving without feeling like you’re trying too hard.

You might both be watching the same series, have completely opposite opinions about a film or discover that one of you is secretly addicted to terrible reality TV.

That’s the kind of stuff that can make a conversation feel a lot more relaxed.

Ask About Hobbies

If you want to get to know her a little better, ask what she does when she’s not working.

Something as simple as:

“What do you like doing in your spare time?”

works well.

She might be into fitness, fashion, gaming, cooking, reading, travelling or something you’d never have guessed.

If you share an interest, great.

If you don’t, ask questions.

You don’t need to have everything in common to have a good conversation.

Choosing someone whose personality suits yours can also make a big difference, which is why it’s worth thinking about how important finding the perfect escort can be before booking.

Try A Slightly More Fun Question

Once you’ve both settled in a bit, you can move beyond basic small talk.

Try:

“What’s something you’ve always wanted to try?”

The answer could be anything from skydiving to learning another language or visiting a certain country.

Questions like this are great because they’re a bit more interesting without being overly personal.

Just make sure you answer too.

A conversation should feel like a back-and-forth, not an interview.

Give A Genuine Compliment

A nice compliment can be an easy icebreaker too.

Maybe she looks amazing.

Maybe you like her dress.

Maybe she smells great.

You can just say it.

Something simple like:

“You look amazing tonight.”

is enough.

You don’t need to keep piling on compliments or make things sexual straight away.

One genuine comment usually feels much more natural than trying too hard.

Ask Questions That Need More Than “Yes” Or “No”

One of the easiest ways to keep conversation going is to ask open questions.

Instead of:

“Do you like travelling?”

try:

“Where would you love to travel next?”

Instead of:

“Do you like London?”

try:

“What’s your favourite part of London?”

It gives the other person more to work with and gives you more chances to carry the conversation on.

Don’t Turn It Into An Interview

This is a big one.

When people are nervous, they sometimes fire off question after question without realising it.

Where are you from?

What do you like doing?

Where do you go on holiday?

What music do you like?

What films do you watch?

It can start feeling less like a date and more like someone filling out a form.

Share your own answers too.

If you ask about her favourite holiday, mention yours.

If you ask what music she likes, tell her what you’ve been listening to.

That way it feels like an actual conversation.

Know What Not To Ask

There are also a few areas where it’s better not to go digging, especially when you’ve only just met.

Avoid overly personal questions about her private life, family, money or relationships unless she brings those things up herself.

And if she gives a short answer or clearly doesn’t want to discuss something, leave it there.

Respecting boundaries is a huge part of making the experience enjoyable for both of you.

Our guide on how to treat escorts when booking covers this in more detail.

Don’t Make Everything About Escorting

It’s understandable to be curious, especially if this is your first booking.

But you don’t need to spend the whole date asking about escorting.

Questions about other clients, personal experiences or private parts of her work can quickly feel intrusive.

You’re spending time with a person, so talk to her like one.

If you’re unsure where the line is, it’s worth reading the dos and don’ts when booking an escort beforehand.

What If There’s An Awkward Silence?

First of all, don’t panic.

Silence does not automatically mean the date is going badly.

Real conversations have pauses.

You don’t need to fill every second.

If things go quiet for a little too long, just go back to something easy.

Comment on the venue.

Ask what she wants to drink.

Mention something she said earlier.

Or just admit:

“I was a bit nervous before tonight, to be honest.”

That can actually break the tension pretty quickly.

You might find she laughs, reassures you and suddenly everything feels much more relaxed.