Fallen For An Escort? Here's What To Do!

Everyone falls in love, but not everyone falls in love with an escort, which can certainly make things a little more complicated. It’s easy to catch feelings when you’re spending intimate time together, but before you get too caught up, it’s worth thinking things through. This guide will help you figure out what’s going on and what to do next. We've even got some of our London escorts involved! 

Figuring Out What’s Really Going On

When you first started seeing an escort, it might’ve just been about having fun. But after a while, maybe you started feeling more. That’s totally normal – spending time with someone in an intimate way can make you care about them. But is it love, or just something else?

"A lot of my clients share their emotions with me," says Kim. "It’s part of what I do to listen and connect, but that doesn’t mean the feelings are mutual."

Here’s a fact to consider: according to a 2023 study on emotional bonds in transactional relationships, nearly 40% of clients reported developing feelings for their regular escorts. This just shows how common it is—you’re not alone.

A study published in the Men and Masculinities journal found that many clients form emotional connections with escorts due to the perceived mutual respect and understanding created during their encounters. This emphasizes how strong the illusion of intimacy can be in these relationships.

Sometimes it’s hard to tell the difference between love and lust. If you’re constantly thinking about her outside of your meetups, it’s worth taking a step back to figure out what’s really going on.

Why You Might Feel This Way

Let’s be honest – attraction can mess with your head. When you’re around someone who makes you feel amazing, your brain is flooding you with chemicals like dopamine that make you want more. Spending time with an escort, especially in such an intimate setup, can crank those feelings up a notch.

Did you know? Studies show that dopamine levels can increase by up to 200% during moments of pleasure and excitement, like those you experience during a GFE. That’s a lot for your brain to process.

"The Girlfriend Experience (GFE) is especially good at creating that vibe," explains Lorenza. "It’s designed to feel like a real relationship, and for many men, it feels very real."

But keep in mind, this is her job. She’s great at making you feel special because that’s what she’s there for. Her kindness, charm, and attentiveness are all part of the service.

Things to Keep in Mind

1. It’s All Part of the Job

Being an escort means creating a connection with clients and making them feel good. "I love making my clients feel important," shares Alma. "But at the end of the day, this is my work."

According to industry data, the majority of escorts see between 5 and 15 clients per week. This means you’re likely not the only one she shares intimate time with—and that’s okay.

Remember, she probably has other clients and a life outside of her job. She might even have a partner.

2. Is It Really Love?

Think about whether your feelings are based on more than just physical attraction. If most of your time together is about sex, it might just be lust.

"Some clients think they’re in love because they’ve never felt such a strong connection before," says Leyla. "But love is about knowing someone beyond the surface."

Here’s something to think about: in surveys, over 70% of people admitted they confuse lust for love in highly emotional situations. Make sure you’re not part of that statistic.

3. The GFE Illusion

The Girlfriend Experience is designed to give you that “dating” feeling. It’s easy to see why feelings can develop, but remember, it’s a paid service, not a real relationship.

What You Can Do

1. Think About Saying Something

If you really believe your feelings are mutual, you could consider telling her how you feel. Just be ready for her to let you down gently.

"Honesty matters, but you’ve got to keep your expectations in check," advises Maya. "Most of us don’t date clients for personal reasons."

If she’s not on the same page, respect her decision and don’t make things awkward for her.

2. Take a Break

If your feelings are too intense, it might be best to stop seeing her. The more time you spend together, the harder it’ll be to move on.

"Taking a step back can be really hard," says Kim. "But sometimes it’s what’s needed to clear your head."

You could consider meeting other escorts or focusing on finding a relationship outside of this setup. Fun fact: over 60% of people who take a break from emotionally charged situations report feeling better within three months.

3. Keep Things Light

If you can enjoy your time together without getting too caught up emotionally, there’s no reason to stop seeing her. Just remember to keep your feelings in check.

4. Talk It Out

Sometimes it helps to chat with someone neutral, like a therapist. They can help you make sense of your emotions and figure out what to do next. Therapy statistics show that over 90% of people find professional guidance helpful for navigating emotional challenges.

Wrapping It Up

Falling for an escort happens more often than you might think, and there’s no shame in it. What matters is how you handle it. Whether you decide to confess, move on, or just enjoy the experience for what it is, the most important thing is taking care of yourself and staying realistic about the situation.